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Surrender: a 3 day intimacy retreat with Adam Wilder and Roma Norriss

  • Loudwater Farm Loudwater Lane Rickmansworth, England, WD3 United Kingdom (map)

A 3 day Intimacy Retreat led by Adam Wilder with support from Roma Norriss

This retreat goes to the heart of our core wounds around men and women. Do not come unless you are prepared for deep dive! 
Our focus is on creating a profoundly safe and honouring space. All work is done fully clothed and equally appropriate whether you are single or in a relationship.
£249 per person


We are imperfect, how do we fall short of what we should be, how do we feel about it? We can feel unsupported by our brothers and sisters, with feelings of distrust or resentment. We can find it uncomfortable to be given praise, warmth, love. 

Questions arise; am I worthy to receive this? What if they knew how I really am? They must have mistaken me for someone else! 

Over the weekend we want to do an intimate work together and in our gender groups to cultivate trust and support. This culminates in a deep healing session which takes place on Saturday evening in which everyone has a chance to be met met and honored. 


Work is in smaller groups and as a whole. In the main ritual each person wants to have the opportunity to receive deeply. When we are longing for and receiving love, it is a very deep part of ourselves, the part that is undernourished and protected by the poverty of personality we developed.

This retreat wants to add some shine to your soul and send you back.Our focus is on creating a profoundly safe and honoring space. All work is done fully clothed and alone. 

Previous participants said

"I want to remember this experience for the rest of my life. It has fundamentally changed my perception of the opposite sex " 

" I felt truly connected in a way that is usually difficult in a large group.I've never felt so hero " 

" This is the most safe I've ever felt in an intimacy workshop "

Adam Wilder is the founder of Togetherness and Shhh Dating. He has been facilitating intimacy, sexuality and group retreats for over 5 years and is known for bringing humor and deep acceptance into his interpersonal work. 

Roma Norriss is lit up by listening, connection, intimacy and community.Her perspective is informed by an appreciation of the original intimacy;our earliest imprint, from where all our patterns stem. 
As well as running courses and workshops online and in the UK, Roma holds retreats on parenting, birth, listening, intimacy and creativity. 


£249 per person including vegetarian meals. There is some accomodation available on site (see below).



There are some double, twin and dorm room accomodation available on site for between £32 - £40 per person per night. There is more accomodation available in the local area. The event administrator will contact you on booking to discuss availability and options.



Friday 8th June 6pm - 10:30pm

Saturday 9th June 10am - 11pm

Sunday 10th June 10am - 4pm


Refund Policy

Up to 90 days before the event - 90% refund or credit towards future event

Up to 60 days before the event - 50% refund or credit towards a future event

Up to 30 days before the event - 25% refund or credit towards a future event

Less than 30 days before the event - no refund or credit

Earlier Event: April 20
Authentic Eros Weekend with Ruby May
Later Event: August 31
Togetherness Summer Party